On Mattering

We all want to matter. We want to know that someone appreciates us, pays attention to us, depends on us, thinks we are important, and would miss us if we were gone.

“Mattering” is a social construct researched since the early 1980’s during which social scientists have developed these five components of mattering. But we probably do not need the research to tell us we need to matter. We feel it in our spirits and our bodies.

Goodness, even my dog wants to matter. She behaves beautifully when she gets love and

attention, food and water, time with me outside on the porch, and plenty of belly rubs. However,

the minute I pick up the dreaded cell phone, I get the death stare, and she is soon at my side,

pawing at my arm to put it down. Madigan needs to matter.

How do you feel inside when you know you matter? What is your posture? How do you carry

your head? What is your brain telling you when others are appreciating you? Oppositely, what

does your spirit feel like when no one is paying attention to you, especially when you need it?

What words do you use to describe yourself if you do not believe anyone thinks you’re

important?

“Mattering” is essential to being a whole, joyful person who can contribute for the sake of the

world. Find your people so that you matter. Always.